Guilt is a feeling of self-blame. How can adult children blame themselves for having certain obligations to their family or for harbouring feelings of irritation which they’ve had for twenty- five years or more towards their parent? Feelings are neither good nor bad, they are facts. It is a fact that you feel A or [...]
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Do you feel guilty towards parents?
January 15, 2010Why old(er) people are not like children continued
December 13, 2009Older people and children are often sick
As a basic principle we should not ascribe any deterioration in health to a specific age group. We have been brainwashed for years to believe that children are forever vomiting, teething, snivelling or running temperatures, while older people have arthritis, fragile bones, stiffness, as well as poor sight and [...]
Why old(er) people are not like children
December 13, 2009It is often said that older people are like children. There is as much truth in that as there is in saying the moon is square.
I think what is really meant, is that older people sometimes react in ways that seem irrational — and this is equated with the reactions of children. It is often [...]
Why Girls Love Guys, Five Reasons to go Continued
November 20, 2009Because they hurt when we hurt.
When something bad happens in our lives, our female friends are always good for commiseration and advice. “That stinks,” they’ll nod sympathetically. Or, “You should just march in there and give her a piece of your mind,” they’ll say indignantly. When you tell a guy about the latest trauma in [...]
Why Girls Love Guys, Five Reasons to go
November 20, 2009Because they put up with us.
Face it: What seems like perfectly normal behavior to us is bona fide alien-nation stuff to them. And yet, often, with great grace and good humor, men do their level best to accommodate the needs of these strange female creatures. One woman recalls how a guy she befriended in [...]
Irrational Thoughts and Intense Arguments
January 16, 2009A young trainee manager complained bitterly about his immediate boss, because he was being given far too much responsibility. He thought that his boss was simply “passing the buck” and he obviously felt resentful. When pointed out to him that this was actually an indication of the high regard that his boss had for his [...]
Happy and unhappy are not opposites: Happily Marriage ever after continued
November 13, 2008What are my partner’s expectations?
Some expectations are determined by social roles (although these may be changing). For example, it is normally expected of a wife to prepare the meals. It is usually expected of the husband to see to the maintenance of the house, etc.
Most expectations will depend entirely on the individual couple. In one [...]
Happy and unhappy are not opposites: Happily Marriage ever after
November 13, 2008The two dimensions of happiness
If I had to ask you what the opposite of “unhappy” was, you would in all likelihood reply, “happy” — but in a sense this is not really true. If for instance, I were to keep banging my head against a wall, it would make me very unhappy. If I stopped [...]
How must a husband love his wife? part 2 Building her up
November 10, 2008Proverbs 31 describes “a wife of noble character”. One reason why she is such a terrific woman is because her husband praises her (verse 28). Few things have such a powerful influence on a person as a genuine compliment. Every word of praise and appreciation builds a woman up — every word of criticism breaks [...]
