In the old days I used to tell my husband to stop watching so much TV. I would implore him to cut his late hours at work. I told him I needed help with the yard. Of course what I really wanted was for him to pay more attention to me. Needless to say at [...]
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Marital Attacks: Foul fighting; Reasoning; Kitbagging; Blaming; Criticism; Ridiculing continued
January 17, 2009Kitbagging
Here one partner has an imaginary kitbag. Every little injury, every little offence, every little hurt is carefully stored in the kitbag. At the time nothing much is said. The person who uses this technique usually suffers in silence — until the kitbag is full. Then when the next disagreement occurs (and usually it’s an [...]
The big day: bringing your cat home
November 24, 2008As the great day dawns, you’ll awake to the realization that life will never be quite the same again. Ideally, you will have arranged to collect your cat or kitten on a day when you will be at home so that you can reassure it and get to know each other, and also when your [...]
I’m afraid to tell you, we never talk anymore
November 17, 2008Time and again I have had a distraught husband or wife tell me that they no longer communicate with their partners. What they mean is that they no longer take the time to share their hopes and fears, their joys and their frustrations. Two days ago Beverley sat in my study and cried, because after [...]
How must a husband love his wife? part 4 Understanding her
November 10, 2008The fourth way in which a husband is to love his wife is to be sensitive to her moods and feelings. 1 Peter 3:7 also says that husbands are to “be considerate as you live with your wives”. The word “considerate” can also be translated “according to knowledge”, and it suggests understanding them and accepting [...]
How must a husband love his wife? part 3 Protecting her
November 10, 20081 Peter 3:7 describes file wife as “the weaker partner” and as such she needs to be protected. Most of us have no difficulty in acknowledging the fact that we are to protect our wives physically. Not many of us, however, recognise that she needs emotional protection even more.
From the children. A mother’s nerves [...]
How must a husband love his wife? part 1 Putting her needs first
November 10, 2008Philippians 2:3-5 says we must consider the needs of others more important than our own needs, just as Christ did. This means that as far as material things are concerned a new suede coat for your wife must have preference over a new set of golf clubs for yourself, or whatever both of your particular [...]
Psychological support tips for get and stay off cigarettes
October 23, 2008Spend as much of your free time as you possibly can in public places where smoking is prohibited. Museums and galleries are excellent. So are theatres. Concert halls are very good, too, and some cinemas (save all the films you have not seen and would really like to see for this period).
