“She angrily blamed me for the divorce despite my desperate attempts to hold things together. In her mind, I failed so miserably as a husband that she was forced to run around with her boss! Are you saying that this transfer of responsibility is typical when one spouse has been unfaithful?” Guilt is a very [...]
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How well do you really know your partner? Rate your understanding
November 18, 2008Most of us would prefer to be understood, rather than to understand, for real understanding requires hard work, determination and patience — and it is a never-ending task. When intimate communication dies, the relationship dies — and when the relationship dies, we too die, as individuals. For instance, case histories have shown that infants who [...]
I’m afraid to tell you, we never talk anymore
November 17, 2008Time and again I have had a distraught husband or wife tell me that they no longer communicate with their partners. What they mean is that they no longer take the time to share their hopes and fears, their joys and their frustrations. Two days ago Beverley sat in my study and cried, because after [...]
How must a husband love his wife? part 4 Understanding her
November 10, 2008The fourth way in which a husband is to love his wife is to be sensitive to her moods and feelings. 1 Peter 3:7 also says that husbands are to “be considerate as you live with your wives”. The word “considerate” can also be translated “according to knowledge”, and it suggests understanding them and accepting [...]
How must a husband love his wife? part 2 Building her up
November 10, 2008Proverbs 31 describes “a wife of noble character”. One reason why she is such a terrific woman is because her husband praises her (verse 28). Few things have such a powerful influence on a person as a genuine compliment. Every word of praise and appreciation builds a woman up — every word of criticism breaks [...]
