It is often said that older people are like children. There is as much truth in that as there is in saying the moon is square.
I think what is really meant, is that older people sometimes react in ways that seem irrational — and this is equated with the reactions of children. It is often [...]
Posts Tagged ‘personal’
Why old(er) people are not like children
December 13, 2009Why is my parent/my child only difficult with me and not with others?
December 13, 2009How often have I heard that said! Parents were astounded when I said little Jack was no problem to teach – in fact, a pleasure to have in the class. I was assured that that was not the case at home. Little Jack was difficult, rude, disobedient.
Why Girls Love Guys, Five Reasons to go Continued
November 20, 2009Because they hurt when we hurt.
When something bad happens in our lives, our female friends are always good for commiseration and advice. “That stinks,” they’ll nod sympathetically. Or, “You should just march in there and give her a piece of your mind,” they’ll say indignantly. When you tell a guy about the latest trauma in [...]
High Price of Love, Money in the Bank
September 12, 2009Should you get joint accounts, separate accounts, or a combination of both? It really depends on your communication style. To help you decide, here’s a rundown of the most common ways to manage money.
Breaking Down the Breakdowns
September 2, 2009Like a complex machine with a lot of moving parts, communication can break down for many reasons. Each of these reasons has a remedy, but you have to know enough about the machine and its parts to spot the problem and get some glimmer of an idea how to fix it.
Live Marriage, Love or Make Love first?
February 5, 2009The Bible describes the complexity and majesty of God with these three words “God is love” (1 John 4:16). When Jesus completed His ministry on this earth, He gave His disciples a command, known as the eleventh commandment, which was, “Love one another as I have loved you” (John 15:12). Christ gave His love when [...]
Marital Attacks: Foul fighting; Reasoning; Kitbagging; Blaming; Criticism; Ridiculing continued
January 17, 2009Kitbagging
Here one partner has an imaginary kitbag. Every little injury, every little offence, every little hurt is carefully stored in the kitbag. At the time nothing much is said. The person who uses this technique usually suffers in silence — until the kitbag is full. Then when the next disagreement occurs (and usually it’s an [...]
A Gossipy Date
November 29, 2008You may ask, then, what you should do if the person you are with starts gossiping about somebody else. You should certainly not just sit and listen. By doing so, you become complicit in this indiscretion. While you may not be doing the gossiping yourself, by listening to it you are using other people’s problems [...]
The chaotic quest for ‘the best’
November 22, 2008They say that when women first start dating, their fantasy perfect man is tall, dark and handsome. At the age of twenty-five they change it to tall, dark and handsome with money. At thirty-five, they change it again to tall, dark and handsome with money and a brain. At forty-eight, it’s a man with hair. [...]
Couple Barriers to Gut-level Communication continued
November 17, 2008Fear of upsetting my partner
Sometimes we refrain from communicating what we really feel because we’re afraid it may hurt or upset our partners. We think that its heroic to “suffer in silence”. Sometimes it is confused with the biblical injunction to “bear your own burdens” or “to be the least”. A wife may feel that [...]
