Picture if you will: It’s early October. The smell of autumn is brisk and sharp in the air, breaking through the oppressive humidity of the last few weeks. You no longer arrive at work with your head all sweaty, looking like a used hankie. Your shoes have stopped sticking to the street. Thank god for [...]
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Just When You Thought You Were Over Him …
February 12, 2010Do you feel guilty towards parents?
January 15, 2010Guilt is a feeling of self-blame. How can adult children blame themselves for having certain obligations to their family or for harbouring feelings of irritation which they’ve had for twenty- five years or more towards their parent? Feelings are neither good nor bad, they are facts. It is a fact that you feel A or [...]
Why old(er) people are not like children continued
December 13, 2009Older people and children are often sick As a basic principle we should not ascribe any deterioration in health to a specific age group. We have been brainwashed for years to believe that children are forever vomiting, teething, snivelling or running temperatures, while older people have arthritis, fragile bones, stiffness, as well as poor sight [...]
Why old(er) people are not like children
December 13, 2009It is often said that older people are like children. There is as much truth in that as there is in saying the moon is square. I think what is really meant, is that older people sometimes react in ways that seem irrational — and this is equated with the reactions of children. It is [...]
Elderly Parent Social losses
November 23, 2009The emotional world of the elderly parent is continually threatened with impoverishment by the loss of siblings, friends and spouse. These losses are compounded by the loss of social functions. Loss of a familiar world and its bonds and loss of recognition aggravate the situation. These losses hurt far more than the pain endured by [...]
Parent lives too far from me
November 23, 2009No doubt the parent hasn’t complained, but you find the distance too great. Let me point out what relocation means to the elderly and then assess whether it is worth it. Relocation has an enormously unsettling effect on the aged. Considerable statistical evidence has been accumulated that shows a connection between the relocation and institutionalising [...]
Why Girls Love Guys, Five Reasons to go Continued
November 20, 2009Because they hurt when we hurt. When something bad happens in our lives, our female friends are always good for commiseration and advice. “That stinks,” they’ll nod sympathetically. Or, “You should just march in there and give her a piece of your mind,” they’ll say indignantly. When you tell a guy about the latest trauma [...]
A Current Affair (or, Cheaters Never Prosper)
October 7, 2009So far, we’ve seen him refuse to a) give you the love you need, b) modify his behavior, c) say one nice thing to you, and d) make a commitment. But wait, there’s more. The last bomb on the heartbreak minefield has yet to explode. Brace yourself—many consider it to be the most combustible of [...]
Breaking Down the Breakdowns
September 2, 2009Like a complex machine with a lot of moving parts, communication can break down for many reasons. Each of these reasons has a remedy, but you have to know enough about the machine and its parts to spot the problem and get some glimmer of an idea how to fix it.
The Fight in a Love Relationship
August 12, 2009No love (or no love worth having, anyway) is totally smooth sailing. That would be ridiculous, and boring, besides. True love calls for a little tussling, a little hysterical scene-making, a little verbal jai-alai. When he puts the empty Chinese food carton back in the fridge or flips television channels like his life depends on [...]
