Guilt is a feeling of self-blame. How can adult children blame themselves for having certain obligations to their family or for harbouring feelings of irritation which they’ve had for twenty- five years or more towards their parent? Feelings are neither good nor bad, they are facts. It is a fact that you feel A or [...]
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Do you feel guilty towards parents?
January 15, 2010What about the parent who has sacrificed a life for her/his child, and the child abandons the parent?
January 15, 2010“Sacrificed a life“! Weighty words indeed. What do they mean? Sacrifice means to “give up” — but has this parent given up a life for a child? Or has the parent devoted his/her life to the child? I would assume that the latter is what is meant. Unfortunately, this does happen. Unfortunately, because the parent [...]
Why old(er) people are not like children
December 13, 2009It is often said that older people are like children. There is as much truth in that as there is in saying the moon is square.
I think what is really meant, is that older people sometimes react in ways that seem irrational — and this is equated with the reactions of children. It is often [...]
Elderly Parent Social losses
November 23, 2009The emotional world of the elderly parent is continually threatened with impoverishment by the loss of siblings, friends and spouse. These losses are compounded by the loss of social functions. Loss of a familiar world and its bonds and loss of recognition aggravate the situation. These losses hurt far more than the pain endured by [...]
Parent lives too far from me
November 23, 2009No doubt the parent hasn’t complained, but you find the distance too great.
Let me point out what relocation means to the elderly and then assess whether it is worth it. Relocation has an enormously unsettling effect on the aged. Considerable statistical evidence has been accumulated that shows a connection between the relocation and institutionalising of [...]
