Older people and children are often sick As a basic principle we should not ascribe any deterioration in health to a specific age group. We have been brainwashed for years to believe that children are forever vomiting, teething, snivelling or running temperatures, while older people have arthritis, fragile bones, stiffness, as well as poor sight [...]
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Why old(er) people are not like children continued
December 13, 2009Choosing a Soul Mate
April 2, 2009Choosing a mate is one of the most important things that you will ever do in life. It is well to ask yourself a few questions. Are your backgrounds similar? If not, you had better seriously reconsider. Your chances of happiness will be slim indeed. Are you both on friendly terms with your own parents? [...]
Ease Marital Conflicts
January 17, 2009Smooth-talking All of the above techniques represent the direct-attack approach to getting one’s own way. There are however, more subtle forms of manipulation that can be extremely effective. One of them is a smooth tongue. Probably the most common form is open flattery. A man invites some friends home for dinner and only tells his [...]
Marital Attacks: Foul fighting; Reasoning; Kitbagging; Blaming; Criticism; Ridiculing continued
January 17, 2009Kitbagging Here one partner has an imaginary kitbag. Every little injury, every little offence, every little hurt is carefully stored in the kitbag. At the time nothing much is said. The person who uses this technique usually suffers in silence — until the kitbag is full. Then when the next disagreement occurs (and usually it’s [...]
Marital Attacks: Foul fighting; Reasoning; Kitbagging; Blaming; Criticism; Ridiculing
January 17, 2009Foul fighting What is the function of a referee in a boxing match? Certainly not to stop the fighting. In fact when there’s a boxing match, two people will always be fighting. No, the referee is there to make sure that there is no foul fighting. It is quite alright for two people to fight, [...]
Couple Barriers to Gut-level Communication continued
November 17, 2008Fear of upsetting my partner Sometimes we refrain from communicating what we really feel because we’re afraid it may hurt or upset our partners. We think that its heroic to “suffer in silence”. Sometimes it is confused with the biblical injunction to “bear your own burdens” or “to be the least”. A wife may feel [...]
