Like a complex machine with a lot of moving parts, communication can break down for many reasons. Each of these reasons has a remedy, but you have to know enough about the machine and its parts to spot the problem and get some glimmer of an idea how to fix it.
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Breaking Down the Breakdowns
September 2, 2009Marital Attacks: Foul fighting; Reasoning; Kitbagging; Blaming; Criticism; Ridiculing continued
January 17, 2009Kitbagging Here one partner has an imaginary kitbag. Every little injury, every little offence, every little hurt is carefully stored in the kitbag. At the time nothing much is said. The person who uses this technique usually suffers in silence — until the kitbag is full. Then when the next disagreement occurs (and usually it’s [...]
I’m afraid to tell you, we never talk anymore
November 17, 2008Time and again I have had a distraught husband or wife tell me that they no longer communicate with their partners. What they mean is that they no longer take the time to share their hopes and fears, their joys and their frustrations. Two days ago Beverley sat in my study and cried, because after [...]
Couple Barriers to Gut-level Communication continued
November 17, 2008Fear of upsetting my partner Sometimes we refrain from communicating what we really feel because we’re afraid it may hurt or upset our partners. We think that its heroic to “suffer in silence”. Sometimes it is confused with the biblical injunction to “bear your own burdens” or “to be the least”. A wife may feel [...]
Enrich our Marriages, Telling it like it is part 2
November 13, 2008Report emotions immediately Our emotional problems do not stem from the fact that we experience them, but from the fact that we act on them. It is one thing to feel disappointed, quite another to walk round the house sulking for several days. It’s one thing to experience anxiety about the safety of your school-going [...]
Smoking Effects of Nicotine on your entire Body
November 12, 2008Nicotine is one of the most powerful of all known drugs. Two or three drops placed on your tongue would be enough to kill you. And, for that matter, the amount of nicotine in a cigar would be fatal if it were administered as an injection in a single swift dose. The way nicotine affects [...]
