Stop Telling Him How to Get You What You Want As I’ve said, trying to tell your husband how to do something is highly ineffective. Still, it’s not unusual for women to try to get what they want by giving their husbands instructions about how to get it—as if he wouldn’t otherwise know that there’s [...]
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Wives Stop Making Demands
June 23, 2009Many wives make demands, which cause terrible resentment. Saying, “You should buy me that necklace in the window at Tiffany’s” is a demand. Any sentence that starts with “You should . . .”, “Why don’t you?” or “I want you to . . .” is automatically a demand because it’s a request expressed with a [...]
Wealth Miracles to be Expected
June 23, 2009“There is no wealth but life.” The unromantic mother/son dynamic (where you tell your husband how much he can spend or what he can buy) is the first thing to go when you let him manage the finances. Remember: Men are not attracted to their mothers.
When you need your husband’s attention, Tell Him you miss Him
June 12, 2009In the old days I used to tell my husband to stop watching so much TV. I would implore him to cut his late hours at work. I told him I needed help with the yard. Of course what I really wanted was for him to pay more attention to me. Needless to say at [...]
Love him, and then tell him you are hurt rather than cover with anger
June 12, 2009“Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk everything, you risk even more.
Bottom Line Advice for Men to Support a Woman
February 25, 2009Remember, if a woman doesn’t have to focus on getting a man to listen to her, she can do what is most natural for her—talking and shifting her own attitude. To support her in feeling more loving and accepting, here is some bottom-line advice for men:
My husband not talks to me
February 18, 2009If a woman wants to talk with someone, she generally waits for her turn. It is her way of being polite. She either listens for a while and then begins to talk, or waits until the other person asks her about her day. These unspoken rules are foreign to most men. If a woman waits [...]
Ease Marital Conflicts
January 17, 2009Smooth-talking All of the above techniques represent the direct-attack approach to getting one’s own way. There are however, more subtle forms of manipulation that can be extremely effective. One of them is a smooth tongue. Probably the most common form is open flattery. A man invites some friends home for dinner and only tells his [...]
Marital Attacks: Foul fighting; Reasoning; Kitbagging; Blaming; Criticism; Ridiculing continued
January 17, 2009Kitbagging Here one partner has an imaginary kitbag. Every little injury, every little offence, every little hurt is carefully stored in the kitbag. At the time nothing much is said. The person who uses this technique usually suffers in silence — until the kitbag is full. Then when the next disagreement occurs (and usually it’s [...]
