Guilt is a feeling of self-blame. How can adult children blame themselves for having certain obligations to their family or for harbouring feelings of irritation which they’ve had for twenty- five years or more towards their parent? Feelings are neither good nor bad, they are facts. It is a fact that you feel A or [...]
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Do you feel guilty towards parents?
January 15, 2010Parent lives too far from me
November 23, 2009No doubt the parent hasn’t complained, but you find the distance too great. Let me point out what relocation means to the elderly and then assess whether it is worth it. Relocation has an enormously unsettling effect on the aged. Considerable statistical evidence has been accumulated that shows a connection between the relocation and institutionalising [...]
Why Girls Love Guys, Five Reasons to go Continued
November 20, 2009Because they hurt when we hurt. When something bad happens in our lives, our female friends are always good for commiseration and advice. “That stinks,” they’ll nod sympathetically. Or, “You should just march in there and give her a piece of your mind,” they’ll say indignantly. When you tell a guy about the latest trauma [...]
Why Girls Love Guys, Five Reasons to go
November 20, 2009Because they put up with us. Face it: What seems like perfectly normal behavior to us is bona fide alien-nation stuff to them. And yet, often, with great grace and good humor, men do their level best to accommodate the needs of these strange female creatures. One woman recalls how a guy she befriended in [...]
A Current Affair (or, Cheaters Never Prosper)
October 7, 2009So far, we’ve seen him refuse to a) give you the love you need, b) modify his behavior, c) say one nice thing to you, and d) make a commitment. But wait, there’s more. The last bomb on the heartbreak minefield has yet to explode. Brace yourself—many consider it to be the most combustible of [...]
Breaking Down the Breakdowns
September 2, 2009Like a complex machine with a lot of moving parts, communication can break down for many reasons. Each of these reasons has a remedy, but you have to know enough about the machine and its parts to spot the problem and get some glimmer of an idea how to fix it.
So ending relationship, so what am I supposed to do with all this time?
July 31, 2009The question isn’t what are you supposed to do, but what do you want to do. Short of lying prostrate in his doorway, almost anything goes. Most of the women we spoke to said that they found the greatest comfort in talking to friends. One twenty five-year-old respondent didn‘t even draw the line at friends. [...]
Divorce, Please Do Not Exploit Your Child
April 8, 2009Children who live in broken homes are often expected to spend their young years trying to bring their quarreling parents together. They rarely, if ever, succeed. Sometimes their lives are brightened by a faint glimmer of hope, only to be greatly disappointed—times without number. Then again, some children in order to get their own way [...]
Choosing a Soul Mate
April 2, 2009Choosing a mate is one of the most important things that you will ever do in life. It is well to ask yourself a few questions. Are your backgrounds similar? If not, you had better seriously reconsider. Your chances of happiness will be slim indeed. Are you both on friendly terms with your own parents? [...]
Do you let your parents get in your marriage?
February 5, 2009The Bible says, “For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh” (Matt. 19:5, Kw). Notice the words leave and cleave. When you get married, you leave the authority your parents have to control your life. You do not have to [...]
