Picture if you will: It’s early October. The smell of autumn is brisk and sharp in the air, breaking through the oppressive humidity of the last few weeks. You no longer arrive at work with your head all sweaty, looking like a used hankie. Your shoes have stopped sticking to the street. Thank god for [...]
Posts Tagged ‘god’
Just When You Thought You Were Over Him …
February 12, 2010Does he still love you any more or not?
September 7, 2009Maybe you are sad to see him look like a shit sitting across the last dinner table, how can you interpreter his behavior to know whether he loves you any more or not.
Live Marriage, Love or Make Love first?
February 5, 2009The Bible describes the complexity and majesty of God with these three words “God is love” (1 John 4:16). When Jesus completed His ministry on this earth, He gave His disciples a command, known as the eleventh commandment, which was, “Love one another as I have loved you” (John 15:12). Christ gave His love when [...]
Do you let your parents get in your marriage?
February 5, 2009The Bible says, “For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh” (Matt. 19:5, Kw). Notice the words leave and cleave.
When you get married, you leave the authority your parents have to control your life. You do not have to call [...]
Ease Marital Conflicts
January 17, 2009Smooth-talking
All of the above techniques represent the direct-attack approach to getting one’s own way. There are however, more subtle forms of manipulation that can be extremely effective. One of them is a smooth tongue. Probably the most common form is open flattery. A man invites some friends home for dinner and only tells his wife [...]
Marital Attacks: Foul fighting; Reasoning; Kitbagging; Blaming; Criticism; Ridiculing continued
January 17, 2009Kitbagging
Here one partner has an imaginary kitbag. Every little injury, every little offence, every little hurt is carefully stored in the kitbag. At the time nothing much is said. The person who uses this technique usually suffers in silence — until the kitbag is full. Then when the next disagreement occurs (and usually it’s an [...]
Irrational Thoughts and Intense Arguments
January 16, 2009A young trainee manager complained bitterly about his immediate boss, because he was being given far too much responsibility. He thought that his boss was simply “passing the buck” and he obviously felt resentful. When pointed out to him that this was actually an indication of the high regard that his boss had for his [...]
Partner has an affair? live with it or shove off ? What do you do?
January 8, 2009In some matter of letting go of a disenchanted lover, but in real-life situations, marital problems often involve complications and entanglements that make our task more difficult. For example, to those men and women who know their partners are having an affair. What should be the attitude of whose partners are being unfaithful? Whereas their [...]
My wife tried to make me feel guilty when she left with her new lover
January 6, 2009“She angrily blamed me for the divorce despite my desperate attempts to hold things together. In her mind, I failed so miserably as a husband that she was forced to run around with her boss! Are you saying that this transfer of responsibility is typical when one spouse has been unfaithful?”
Guilt is a very painful [...]
Predestined Dating
November 29, 2008We all sometimes love to marvel about things like, ‘Had I never gone to the Pizza Hut that day, I would never have met her . . .’ or, ‘It all began when I spotted him in the police line-up.’ It is fine, so long as you understand it as deep mystery, the romantic beginning [...]
