Guilt is a feeling of self-blame. How can adult children blame themselves for having certain obligations to their family or for harbouring feelings of irritation which they’ve had for twenty- five years or more towards their parent? Feelings are neither good nor bad, they are facts. It is a fact that you feel A or [...]
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Do you feel guilty towards parents?
January 15, 2010Why old(er) people are not like children continued
December 13, 2009Older people and children are often sick As a basic principle we should not ascribe any deterioration in health to a specific age group. We have been brainwashed for years to believe that children are forever vomiting, teething, snivelling or running temperatures, while older people have arthritis, fragile bones, stiffness, as well as poor sight [...]
Why old(er) people are not like children
December 13, 2009It is often said that older people are like children. There is as much truth in that as there is in saying the moon is square. I think what is really meant, is that older people sometimes react in ways that seem irrational — and this is equated with the reactions of children. It is [...]
Why is my parent/my child only difficult with me and not with others?
December 13, 2009How often have I heard that said! Parents were astounded when I said little Jack was no problem to teach – in fact, a pleasure to have in the class. I was assured that that was not the case at home. Little Jack was difficult, rude, disobedient.
Elderly Parent Social losses
November 23, 2009The emotional world of the elderly parent is continually threatened with impoverishment by the loss of siblings, friends and spouse. These losses are compounded by the loss of social functions. Loss of a familiar world and its bonds and loss of recognition aggravate the situation. These losses hurt far more than the pain endured by [...]
Parent lives too far from me
November 23, 2009No doubt the parent hasn’t complained, but you find the distance too great. Let me point out what relocation means to the elderly and then assess whether it is worth it. Relocation has an enormously unsettling effect on the aged. Considerable statistical evidence has been accumulated that shows a connection between the relocation and institutionalising [...]
Friends or Your Lover? Guys, who do you hang out most?
August 17, 2009What Friends Are For But ask most married men how long it has been since they’ve hung out with an old friend from high school or college, and they’ll shrug sheepishly. The answer is often “years,” and we’re here to tell you that’s way too long.
Divorce, Please Do Not Exploit Your Child
April 8, 2009Children who live in broken homes are often expected to spend their young years trying to bring their quarreling parents together. They rarely, if ever, succeed. Sometimes their lives are brightened by a faint glimmer of hope, only to be greatly disappointed—times without number. Then again, some children in order to get their own way [...]
Live Marriage, Love or Make Love first?
February 5, 2009The Bible describes the complexity and majesty of God with these three words “God is love” (1 John 4:16). When Jesus completed His ministry on this earth, He gave His disciples a command, known as the eleventh commandment, which was, “Love one another as I have loved you” (John 15:12). Christ gave His love when [...]
Irrational Thoughts and Intense Arguments
January 16, 2009A young trainee manager complained bitterly about his immediate boss, because he was being given far too much responsibility. He thought that his boss was simply “passing the buck” and he obviously felt resentful. When pointed out to him that this was actually an indication of the high regard that his boss had for his [...]
