Smooth-talking
All of the above techniques represent the direct-attack approach to getting one’s own way. There are however, more subtle forms of manipulation that can be extremely effective. One of them is a smooth tongue. Probably the most common form is open flattery. A man invites some friends home for dinner and only tells his wife [...]
Posts Tagged ‘behaviour’
Ease Marital Conflicts
January 17, 2009Love must be tough, “the line of respect”
January 6, 2009The best way of keeping a marriage healthy is to maintain a system of mutual accountability, within the context of love. Speaking personally, the secret of my beautiful relationship with Shirley for the past twenty-three years has involved a careful protection of the ‘line of respect‘ between us.
A Sick Baby
November 25, 2008From time to time I am asked to help emotionally troubled children with behaviour disturbances whose problems I diagnose as untreatable or, at best, highly resistant to treatment. This situation perplexes and frustrates any professional, myself included, since each of us would like to feel and be sufficiently powerful to cure any possible problem for [...]
Happy and unhappy are not opposites: Happily Marriage ever after
November 13, 2008The two dimensions of happiness
If I had to ask you what the opposite of “unhappy” was, you would in all likelihood reply, “happy” — but in a sense this is not really true. If for instance, I were to keep banging my head against a wall, it would make me very unhappy. If I stopped [...]
