Withdrawing A particularly foul method of fighting is to say nothing, to withdraw in silence. This is a very loud silence that permeates every aspect of home life. It is not unusual for me as counsellor to hear of husbands who don’t talk to their wives for days on end. When their partners beg them [...]
Posts Tagged ‘approach’
Ease Marital Conflicts continued
January 17, 2009Marriage, let’s Resolve Our Differences
November 24, 2008When both partners have expressed their desires explicitly in terms of outcome, the stage is set for the discussion of any differences. To ensure a win/win approach during this phase, the couple must stick rigidly to the “we versus it” approach, as opposed to the “you versus me” approach. The “we versus it” approach implies [...]
I’m afraid to tell you, we never talk anymore
November 17, 2008Time and again I have had a distraught husband or wife tell me that they no longer communicate with their partners. What they mean is that they no longer take the time to share their hopes and fears, their joys and their frustrations. Two days ago Beverley sat in my study and cried, because after [...]
