You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love.”
You may find yourself exasperated when your husband invites you to advise him over and over again. You may resist the bait the first eight times, only to give in the ninth time he asks the same question. Fortunately, as with practicing any of the principles of a surrendered wife, you don’t have to be perfect. Soon your husband will learn not to ask you about things that he can figure out for himself. Continue to exercise your “surrendering muscles,” and you too will learn not to engage.
Now that you recognize bait and know when he’s inviting you to engage, you will be able to resist taking it and falling back into those old, controlling habits. You may get irritated when you spot bait. You might think, “If he would just stop baiting me, I would stop telling him what to do!”
The bad news is, it doesn’t seem to work that way. You have to change your habits first. The good news is that as you stop responding to his bait, he will stop using it. After all, if he finds it doesn’t do him any good, he’ll eventually stop wasting his time. He’ll do his own thinking, and take initiative, just like you’ve always wished he would.
