You may ask, then, what you should do if the person you are with starts gossiping about somebody else. You should certainly not just sit and listen. By doing so, you become complicit in this indiscretion. While you may not be doing the gossiping yourself, by listening to it you are using other people’s problems for your personal recreation. Read the rest of this entry »
Archive for November, 2008
Darwin of Dating? No, No
Nowhere is this truer than in dating. No one wants to go out with a person who is on some sort of romantic power trip, who thinks a relationship should be as competitive as the workplace or the sports field, and only one of you can come out on top. Read the rest of this entry »
Predestined Dating
We all sometimes love to marvel about things like, ‘Had I never gone to the Pizza Hut that day, I would never have met her . . .’ or, ‘It all began when I spotted him in the police line-up.’ It is fine, so long as you understand it as deep mystery, the romantic beginning of the story of how your fates have been intertwined . . . but not as a simple accident. Read the rest of this entry »
A Sick Baby
From time to time I am asked to help emotionally troubled children with behaviour disturbances whose problems I diagnose as untreatable or, at best, highly resistant to treatment. This situation perplexes and frustrates any professional, myself included, since each of us would like to feel and be sufficiently powerful to cure any possible problem for any patient. Read the rest of this entry »
Help your Children accept Born Disease
You can recognize, and help him recognize, that problems are relative. A child who lives on hormone shots that make him behave strangely is better off than a dying child. Read the rest of this entry »
Marriage, let’s Declare your wishes
Marriage partners can hold widely differing opinions without necessarily experiencing conflict. A woman may think that a particular movie star is wonderful. Her husband may disagree completely — yet it would not create conflict because it wouldn’t affect any decisions that they would have to make. Read the rest of this entry »
Marriage, let’s Resolve Our Differences
When both partners have expressed their desires explicitly in terms of outcome, the stage is set for the discussion of any differences. To ensure a win/win approach during this phase, the couple must stick rigidly to the “we versus it” approach, as opposed to the “you versus me” approach. The “we versus it” approach implies that they are both on the same side, confronting a problem. Read the rest of this entry »
Children Safety with Cat
Teaching a child how to handle a cat correctly will ensure the safety of both, but may be difficult to drum into young children, who will probably be beside themselves with excitement at the arrival of a feline playmate. (And it’s kinder to the new cat to arrange for them to be out of the house when you first introduce it to your home.) Read the rest of this entry »
The big day: bringing your cat home
As the great day dawns, you’ll awake to the realization that life will never be quite the same again. Ideally, you will have arranged to collect your cat or kitten on a day when you will be at home so that you can reassure it and get to know each other, and also when your household will be as quiet as possible. Before collecting the new feline addition to the family, Read the rest of this entry »
